Are you creating from fear or safety?
If you were to choose between feeling safe or feeling fear, which state would you rather create from?
This may seem like a trick question. Consciously, most of us would likely choose to create from a feeling of safety.
And yet...
Many of us are creating from a feeling of fear instead.
Whenever we go to our edges with a new goal, it's completely normal to feel fear as we step outside our comfort zones. Fear will be part of the process, but how we relate to that fear is everything. Feeling fear is not a sign to stop, it’s a sign to become aware.
When it comes to understanding fear, I’ve found so much wisdom in a teaching I learned from a Jewish rabbi about fear. Did you know that in the Hebrew language, there are two words for fear?
Paschad: This is the fear of the ego. It’s the fear of imagined worst-case scenarios and separations, rooted in scarcity and lack. It’s a contracted, defensive state.
Yirah: This is a very different type of fear. It’s the feeling of awe and expansiveness when we stand in the presence of the Divine, something greater than ourselves. This is the fear we feel when we step into our highest calling.
Unfortunately, the English language doesn’t make this distinction, so we often confuse the two. When you’re creating something new—whether it’s a project, a relationship, or a dream—you’ll feel both kinds of fear. Recognizing the difference and learning to cultivate a felt sense of safety can change everything.
As a transformational teacher, my work focuses on the Law of Creation: which I break down into five words: Feel, Be, See, Say, and Do. These are the pillars of both healing the past and creating the future. And here’s the important part: neither direction is free from fear. It’s not about avoiding fear—it’s about knowing how to create from safety and yirah fear instead of being driven by pachad fear.
But here’s the catch: We need to feel first. So often, we rush ahead to the doing or the thought work of seeing and saying, but without the feeling, the creation lacks depth.
So, let’s dive into fear a little more deeply.
When we create, we have two options:
We can create from the ego, which is rooted in pachad fear.
We can create from our true self, which is grounded in safety and unconditional love—and yes, often accompanied by yirah fear, which calls us to expand.
Creating from the ego feels like striving. It’s driven by a belief that we’re not enough or that there’s not enough resources, or we create out of avoidance—trying to escape pain, prove our worth, or earn love through achievement. The Law of Creation still works in the ego, but it’s hollow. I know because I’ve done it. I’ve created so many things from the ego, thinking they’d fulfill me, but they never did.
Here’s what I’ve learned: what we really want isn’t the thing we’re creating—it’s the feeling we believe it will give us.
We think we want the money, but what we really want is the feeling of freedom.
We think we want the relationship, but what we really want is to feel loved.
We think we want success, but what we really want is to feel safe and worthy.
Does any of this sound familiar to you? Can you think of a time when you created from fear of the ego? Perhaps you tried to do something because you believed it was the key to feeling loved or accepted?
Creating from the true self is different. When we create from a place of true self, we create from a place of safety and unconditional love. Yes, you may still feel some Yirah fear—fear of stepping into something bigger than you—but you’re doing it from a place of trust. Trust that the Divine, God, the Universe will co-create with you. And when you feel safety in your body, you’re able to step forward with confidence, even with fear in the mix.
We find safety by using tools that help to regulate our nervous system. When we shift into using our amazing bodies as a creation tool, things start to shift quickly. This is a bottom up approach. We learn how to heal and regulate our nervous system and come into a state of safety, and from there we move up into the mind. It’s only when we’re rooted in safety that we can align our body, heart, and mind for true creation.
When I began focusing on nervous system regulation, I discovered the power of a bottom-up approach. Regulating the body in order to regulate the mind. When my body feels safe, my mind will calm down too. When my body feels safe, affirmations or mindset work no longer feel unbelievable. They feel real and magnetic.
This is why creating from safety is so important. Without it, even the best intentions fall flat because they’re built on a shaky foundation of the ego. But when you create from safety, you tap into your true self—and from there, you can co-create with the Divine.
In fact, I’ll tell you this: The more I’ve created from the true self, the less I’ve felt the need to achieve for the sake of achieving. It’s been about creating for the joy of creating, for the process, not just the outcome.
So let’s pause for a moment for some personal contemplation. Ask yourself:
What would it feel like if I created some safety?
Where in my life am I pushing from fear or scarcity?
What would it feel like to let go of that fear, even for a moment, and create from my true self with love and acceptance?
Here's a metaphor that might help:
The River Metaphor
Imagine a river flowing through the landscape. Its path is not random—it’s purposeful. The river is in flow, guided by the land, co-creating its course with the Universe.
Now imagine building a dam to control that flow. That’s what fear does. The ego, driven by Pachad fear, doesn’t trust the river to flow where it’s meant to go. It wants control.
But the dam comes at a cost. It blocks the natural movement of creation, exhausting us in the process. The water—our energy, our inspiration—builds up, stagnant and stuck.
True creation isn’t about letting the river flow aimlessly, nor is it about rigidly controlling it. It’s about co-creating with the river. It’s about working with the flow of the Universe, trusting its guidance while gently directing its course.
When you create from your true self, you’re not just the river—you’re a co-creator of a masterpiece. You align your intention with the flow of something greater, moving from a place of safety, awe, and partnership. We can guide the flow, channeling it with intention, but we’re not forcing it.
Creating from safety doesn’t mean we sit back and let the current carry us anywhere. It means we trust the river’s wisdom while partnering with it to shape its path.
So how do you create from safety? It starts with regulating your nervous system.
I'm excited to share with you a whole lot more about regulation in future articles. For me, regulation is most supported by meditation, breathwork, and being in nature. You’ll know you’ve reached a regulated state when you feel calm, expansive, and alive in your body. Your mind will quiet, and you’ll feel present. From here, you’re not creating to escape fear—you’re creating to express love, awe, and connection.
This is what it means to create from your true self and its where we have access to true power. It’s not just about the outcomes you achieve; it’s about the state you embody along the way.
When you create from safety and love, you don’t just bring something new into the world—you bring your truest self into the world. And that’s the most powerful creation of all.
You are a creator.
Feel, be, see, say, and do
The light in me honors the light in you.